Feminist Beyoncé Says Gender Equality Is Bullsh*t (Okay, I’m Paraphrasing): Call her “crazy (in love),” but this “independent woman” thinks women should earn enough to pay their “bills, bills, bills.” I like this quote so much I put a ring on it.
The Straw Feminist. Tropes vs Women
This video is just about perfect in its portrayal of real straw feminists(not the funny ones in “Hark! a vagrant”) and why you so often hear the phrase “I believe in equality, but I’m not a feminist”. By the way, if you ever hear another woman say that, stop the conversation, and call them an idiot. You can’t have a rational conversation until they’re forced to confront the sheer level of cognitive dissonance such a phrase should produce. “That phrase is so stupid your brain should literally be in pain from the conflicting elements of it. Either you brought into a fantasy TV reality more than actual reality, or mentally you’re hell bent on clinging to a just world fallacy otherwise you might have to admit there is still tons of sexism, racism, classism and so on. Probably a mix of both.”
[image description: this image originally read “You are made male by birth, man by age, and gentleman by choice.” - it’s been corrected to read “You are made male by gender identity, man by age and gentleman by generally being nice or adhering to sexist standards (depending on who’s talking)”.]
[image description: this image originally read “If you’ve never been thrown out of and banned from a place of business then you’re not living aggressively enough” - it’s been edited to read “If you’ve never been thrown out of and banned from a place of business then you’re not living up to a rather silly concept of “maleness”“]
aster-disaster asked: can you make that ask where the person said you "promote a reverse of privilege as oppose to equality" rebloggable? i think your answer was flawless.
Done and thank you!
Anonymous asked: Sometimes I think your corrections promote a reverse of privilege as oppose to equality. It is not sexist to tell men that they should have standards for the women (or whom ever) they chose to associate with because in actuality everyone really should have standards. Thoughts?
Sometimes the standards that are promoted are disgusting and degrading. It’s not about forbidding men from having standards for the women they choose to associate, because some standards are good to have. Like for example, not wanting to be around anyone that’s inconsiderate to you and rude to your circle of friends, or not wanting to date a smoker because you dislike the smell of cigarette smoke; those are reasonable standards to have. But those are a far step away from saying I don’t date fat chicks because those girls are ugly (all women should be an ideal weight and size to even consider arousing a man because that’s the most important thing that a woman can aspire to be) or a man not wanting to date a woman that might be smarter than him.
When your standards perpetuate a system of beliefs that harm people it’s problematic, because those standards don’t exist in a vacuum. You can’t say that just because it’s one person that it doesn’t affect anyone because guess what? That’s not the only person that hold those views, because we all grew up in a system that perpetuates these views that taught us to hold these views as acceptable. And that’s a problem.