February 2012
20 posts
Anonymous asked: hey why is that lawsofmodernman blog not in the "send a big stfu" section?
Anonymous asked: hey, this is the seventeen year old anon again. you make a lot of really good points. i think eventually as i learn and break through the expectations that society has pre-set, i'll grow out of this view. i have a lot of mixed feelings about everything as i'm just coming into this feminist point of view and i'm still learning. thank you for your reply (: and thank you to myswtghst...
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Anonymous asked:
i’m a seventeen year old girl, and i have this thing with revealing clothes… i don’t like them. :/ on one hand, i think it’s wonderful that women feel empowered enough to dress the way that they want and not let the pressures of society or the expectations of men sway their decisions. i understand that wearing a low-cut top or tight skirt does not...
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Anonymous asked stfuetiquetteblogs:
Radical feminism is a current theoretical perspective within feminism that focuses on the theory of patriarchy as a system of power that organizes society into a complex of relationships based on an assumption that male supremacy oppresses women. Radical feminism aims to challenge and overthrow patriarchy by opposing standard gender roles and oppression...
thefirstwordinthedictionary asked: finally a blog where I can scroll 22 pages and still only have found things I agree with. you guys rock so much!
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floorclaudiuscaroline asked: Anon's point may have been that "radical feminism" is a term associated with the worst of feminism, as in racism, violent, violent transphobia/transmisogyny, and so on. So be careful when identifying as radical feminist!
Anonymous asked: it's one thing to be a feminist. it's another to be a radical.
Anonymous asked: i hate erikangstrom just wanted to tell someone. I'm glad you got around to fixing one of his sexist "laws".
toodaloomothafucker asked: Talking about to shave or not shave and if a woman asked a guy to do yadada he'd quite right not... erm... cutting your balls off is quite different to trimming hair. I was totally confused with that because you've always seemed so intelligent your points are well thought out. How is cutting your balls off (genital mutilation) anything like shaving? lol... p.s. though circumcision would...
January 2012
27 posts
Anonymous asked: that famous saturday night live skit of tina fey as sarah palin - do you think it's sexist on their part, or sarcastic?
Anonymous asked: How would you define cheating, in the contest of a relationship?
hightopsneakers-sailortattoos asked: This blog is fucking fantastic. Thank you for running it.
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It's none of your goddamn fucking business...
existentialroughdraft:
To shave or not to shave? That’s not even a goddamn question. Leave her lady parts alone.
I just don’t understand why a woman should be pressured to conform to any set of standards of “beauty” just to please others or appeal to other people’s aesthetic preferences. If anything, she should only do these things on her own accord.
Personally, I am a (paranoid) hygiene freak...
Anonymous asked: This is more for Josh, but either of you are welcome to answer. Would you consider tipsforthemoderndandy to be an etiquette blog?
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surviving2years asked: where'd you go? :o i miss your posts!
Anonymous asked: Sorry if you've answered this before, but do you have an opinion on Brotips? Not exactly an etiquette blog, but similar. I'm asking because I get mixed messages- a lot of their posts are positive, but there are also a lot that seem to reinforce gender roles and antiquated ideas.
mcflymclfy asked: Hey, firstly, I think I'm in love with this blog. I just came to ask if this is your main blog (the one you can follow people with) if not, what's your main blog?
Anonymous asked: who are the kinds of people who write the original submissions?? (not the rewrites, those are lovely <3)
Anonymous asked: what do you think about the lingerie football league on mtv2? it pisses me off.
Anonymous asked: very early on in our relationship, like within the first couple weeks that we became "official," my boyfriend had expressed his concern over certain outfits i had because he didn't want other guys looking. i just told him up front that i was going to dress how i wanted, and it doesn't matter who looks because i only wanted him. he dropped it and has never brought it up again....
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stayceerantsandraves asked: My abusive ex started telling me how to dress, then what music to listen to or not, then who to hang out with. It was small thing after small thing, until it wasn't small anymore and I ended up in the hospital. Please don't excuse this behavior, it never gets better.
captainfailboat asked: Trying to control someone's actions (whether clothing choices, job choices, going places, etc.) AND making someone "responsible" for other's actions and subsequently punishing them for these actions is a classic abuser move. I hope the OP realizes what a huge red flag this is and either lays down the law or leaves a bf who wants to control them.
licoriceplease asked: Your significant other trying to control your wardrobe and actions - that is a sign of domestic abuse.
Anonymous asked: I'm not sure if this is the place to go to for advice, but my boyfriend has started to tell me what I should and shouldn't wear because he "doesn't want the other guys looking". I got offended, because I make sure that I'm always weather appropriate and situation appropriate. What should I say next time I bring this subject up?
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TRIGGER WARNING: Misogynistic Language
TRIGGER WARNING: Misogynistic Language
i-do-bite-my-thumb-sir asked:
isn’t saying “don’t be a dick about it” just as bad as calling someone a pussy? not trying to be a smart ass or anything here, i love this blog. i just don’t see a difference.
I can see where you’re coming from. I suppose the female equivalent would be calling someone a twat or cunt.
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urlcannotendinahyphen asked: For id5, I think the imbalance is how the oral is perceived. If a woman likes giving oral, the other person is perceived as "in control." When a woman is receiving oral, though, the giver is perceived as "in control." This may not work in the patriarchy's interest for bisexual relations, though, because everything is set up for heterosexuality. It's not bad to enjoy...
id5aaaaas asked: I am bisexual, and find that most of the fun in oral sex is having power over the other person's pleasure, whether it be a man or woman. There's nothing sexist about that.
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December 2011
62 posts
afadingoctober asked: Okay I know I just sent you a message yesterday but I've been making my way through your blog and I just love it so hard. Especially how you stand by that a woman and a man are whatever the heck they want to be. I was raised in a house where there were no barbies and very little disney. I wear T-shirts and man-shorts and I have a pixie cut and spike my hair. And I am dead gorgeous. It's...
afadingoctober asked: I do occasionally read etiquette blogs because I find them interesting. But some of those "rules" are just... I can't even explain how weird/not true they are. Way to set some people straight (:
Anonymous asked: Just read this entire blog in one night. Good time spent, aww yeah.